- Parents often get worried when the child climbs up the playground slide, or asks to ride on a car with remote control, or attempts to use a razor-sharp saw. But you should know that you cannot make them stop or do things without their consent. Similarly, parents cannot force their kids to play or go to sleep or force them to finish the homework. Moreover, these strategies are followed by scared parents. Hence, it is important to take care of your kids but being over protective make them weak as a person. In addition, if you allow the children, they can learn to deal with uncertain conditions in form of training and getting acquainted with the new approaches.
Of course, the risk is part and parcel of the life, but some of the parents want to keep their kids safe. Hence, there is a need to redefine the knowledge of parenting, especially in dealing with risks which are natural in parents. The safety of the child is important, but it is different from sheltering them. Kids can deal with risks and conflicts in order to become independent individuals. Likewise, the kids can be secured if you equip them with skills to experience the risk and ways of handling them in an effective manner that they come across in life.
1. Use of ToolsEvery kid wants to remain safe without getting hurt. But when a child comes in contact with a sharp knife, it can hurt them, which can be prevented if you supervise them and if you keep the Band-Aids with you. With training, the toddler can use learn to use tools for chopping fruits and vegetables. Parents can do it by introducing tips on using a knife for cutting banana and safe use of butter knife. Once the children get better with a butter knife, you can introduce the sharp kitchen knife to kids in small steps. More so, parents can guide the kids in giving priority to safety measure while they use the tools. In addition, if you make your kids responsible for their own safety, they become more confident about the value of acquiring skills and using it for their own use. However, if you have any doubt that kids cannot do it, you can watch kids at a Montessori school to figure out how they prepare their own snacks or make bird houses on their own.
2. ReadingAdults want to keep children away from the sorrow, but if you know the value of reading and writing, you can protect them to a large extent. For example, if you ask them to rewrite sad endings of the story with the happy endings, it can teach kids important lessons on staying happy. Also, you need to bear in mind that it is not normal for children to stay happy all the time just like adults. Children need to learn how to cope with big feelings, for example, sadness, fear, and anger. And the use of books is an effective mean to deal with sad feelings, as it can help kids to develop the sense of the empathy and compassion in their life.
3. Talking to New PeopleIf you follow the proverb that lays stress on not "talking to strangers", it impacts your children or makes them antisocial or afraid of new people in many ways. However, researchers and psychologists are of the view that if close family and friends are critical, it could hurt the kids. Moreover, children become safe if they know how to deal with strangers instead getting afraid of them because of the sense of confidence in them. Moreover, the definition of a new person also needs to be determined in order to save the children from bad experiences. Even though not all new people can be nice to children, but if they fall into a category that is safe for children, the interaction should be encouraged. Furthermore, people with different worldview can teach children things they cannot learn otherwise in terms of being a tolerant and all-inclusive mindset.
4. HomeworkMost of the parents lay stress on doing homework but the advantages of doing homework are age- dependent, according to one of the research study. Though homework is most useful in high school, however, it may not be as effective for other age brackets. In a case of young kids, homework can harm their personality, especially if it is beyond their capability. Some of the experts believe that it diverts the attention from the developmental needs, which are sleep and play, and it usually changes the perception of kid towards the school. According to recent research, homework at the elementary school is of no academic use. Of course, this is a complex part of judging what works best for your family, but forcing your kids to complete homework is not a good idea either, as it may make children desist the homework.
5. Going Straight to First GradeMany parents think that kindergarten is not optional, but if local kindergarten is not fit for your child, you can skip the kindergarten by sending your child directly to first grade. There are many means to prepare your kids for school and it can be supplemented with the non-academic activities, for example, physical and imaginative play. According to Brain research, the use of rough-and-tumble play increases the productivity of the frontal lobe of the brain, which is required for academic thinking, for example, memory and focus. So, if your kid is hyper one or not ready, look for a preschool, home school or daycare program to promote physical activities, and they can be prepared for studies in the second stage.
6. PlayWhen kids try to slide the wrong side, parents’ usually stop the children from doing it. Some believe that parents do it in order to avoid the judging eyes of other parents and out of genuine concern for their child, while other are afraid of change. However, kids can get benefit by facing the fear or new things in terms of finding out solutions. Though parents can interfere if there is a danger, however guiding the kids is the best approach. Moreover, kids are curious by nature and they prefer to have fun by going on another side of the slide. So, if you let them play on their own, they can learn to grow.
- To conclude, parents want to keep the children safe by avoiding risks, however, taking risks is necessary for children, as they become open-minded. Furthermore, the kids can be guided by their parents, but if you encroach upon their freedom, it could affect the development of the child.