The Potholes to Avoid on The Path of Love

Couples in love move in together all the time. Shipping boxes are filled, moved, and the couple begins living together in something approaching bliss, at least in theory.

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  1. Couples in love move in together all the time. Shipping boxes are filled, moved, and the couple begins living together in something approaching bliss, at least in theory. However, this starts the process of really getting to know each other, and that may not be as much fun as they expected, but it is the only way to find out for sure just how compatible the two of you are. But the path to true love is never that smooth, and there are some obvious potholes.
  2. 1) The difference is how you define "clean". It is rare that both parties share the same definition of "clean", and sometimes that is not a bad thing. When you were living separately, it was easy to hide any cleanliness issues by throwing dirty clothes into a closet and keeping you away from the kitchen. When you start living together, however, you need to quickly find common ground, or at least a way to split the chores so that you both will not be at each other's throats.
  3. 2) The difference between decor styles. An interesting problem will arise when you find that your decorating choices are different, forcing some of the most interesting compromises in your relationship. You will need to determine what is important to both of you, and how you wish to split the design. Keep in mind that both tastes need to be expressed; it is, after all, a space the two of you will be sharing and so you both need to have cornerstones in the design. Storage and online auctions are options, but they should be done only after a long conversation and both parties need to contribute.
  4. 3) The difference between yours, mine, and ours will be made quickly apparent. You combining the inventories of two different people, and trying to figure out what to keep and what to toss is never an easy decision. Try to keep the best stuff while allowing for individual tastes, and keep in mind that toiletries of both individuals should be kept. Remember that storage and online auctions are always options, and that there are always fun ways to resolve disputes when you get tired of the simple versions.
  5. 4) Personal space is sacred. You need to figure out a way to maintain some sort of personal space, a space that is distinctly one party's. Even the smallest space can be divided by a curtain and the space does not need to be inside the house, but the space does need to be made or you will find ways to attack each other.
  6. Keep the shipping boxes near and the paperwork closer; you do not want to be stuck in a year-long lease when you find that the two of you are incompatible in month two. It may sound unromantic, but there are some advantages to have a back-up plan. Just remember that a good relationship takes work, and that may help you past some hard times. But...at least you will find out if the relationship will last in the only way that matters, and it is worth any effort you put into it.
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