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"I am a mother. I am a wife, a sister, a daughter, an entrepreneur and I am allowed to be sexy"


  1. Since model and reality TV star Kim Kardashian posted the photo below captioned "When you're like 'I have nothing to wear'", the internet has broken out into the great debate: Is Kim encouraging female empowerment and sexuality or is she nothing more than an overexposed mother of two who is setting a bad example for her children and young fans?
  2. When you're like I have nothing to wear LOL
    When you're like I have nothing to wear LOL
  3. It's no secret that Kim has a history with sexual exploitation; in 2007, a confidential video of Kim and her former husband Ray J leaked, and to this day she is still being criticised for it, regardless of her success in removing it from the internet and moving on with her life.
  4. Situations like these blur the reality of Kim Kardashian's achievements, and the public seems to neglect the fact that she is a successful entrepreneur. She is constantly being judged for her past and is made to feel less-than because she is openly confident about her sexuality.
  5. Kim states that this photo was taken following the birth of her first child, North West, and was posted because she was genuinely proud of the progress she had made from exercising and dieting, losing her baby weight.
  6. What is so wrong with this woman, who has experienced something that almost every woman goes through in their lifetime (childbirth) losing weight and being proud of it?
  7. There comes a time to question where to draw the line when we judge others. There is a notion that as a public we automatically have the right to criticise those who make their lives public; that we, as parents, students, and influencers just know what's right and wrong, that just because someone does something that you would never do, means that no one should do it at all.
  8. In this article posted on The Fashion Journals, it's highlighted that the human body is an incredible organism that "creates and sustains life" and women especially shouldn't be ashamed of their bodies in any context.
  9. Just over three weeks after Kim Kardashian's first "nothing to wear" selfie, another one was posted to her social media, featuring model and actress Emily Ratajkowski, who captioned it "However sexual our bodies may be, we need to have the freedom as women to choose when and how we express our sexuality."
  10. Emily continued on Twitter:
  11. Nor should she be, nor should any woman feel ashamed or apologetic of what their body might represent to others for that matter. Globally, so many women struggle with body image and self-esteem issues, and we as a public wonder why our mothers, sisters, daughters, and friends complain about their 'flaws' while we think that they are gorgeous.
  12. How do you expect women to be confident if we watch our peers metaphorically tear themselves and other women to shreds? How can you expect to empower women as a whole if you're so busy passing judgement on those who decide to share their confidence with the world?
  13. Not only is it hypocritical, but it's so demeaning to women as a whole. As a society, women work hard every day to ensure that they are given equal rights to their male counterparts; women fight to feel safe and secure in their homes and workplaces, and furthermore, as a consumerist society, women involve themselves in fashion and trends to ensure that they can keep up to date with their peers, and yet, it's those same women who condemn others who already have that self assurance.
  14. As a society we campaign for things like 'International Women's day' and we work towards gender equality, but can we really achieve this if we as women can't even bring ourselves to support other women?
  15. Kim took to her blog on International Women's Day and wrote an essay, justifying her decision to post that nude photo. In it she states "I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me. And I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world."
  16. Then, referring back to International Women's Day, she continued... “I feel so lucky to have grown up surrounded by strong, driven, independent women,” she wrote. “The life lessons I’ve learned from my sisters, my mother and my grandmother, I will pass along to my daughter. I want her to be proud of who she is. I want her to be comfortable in her body. I don’t want her to grow up in a world where she is made to feel less-than for embracing everything it means to be a woman.”
  17. The fact that we have powerful and successful women taking very public stands on the issue should be enough for both sides of the argument to give it a rest. We have women like singer and actress Beyoncé whose messages in her songs empower women to both feel confident in themselves and not to feel embarrassed by wanting to feel sexy or enjoying their sexuality. A recent example of this is Beyoncé's song 'Flawless' which features Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a Nigerian novelist whose most prominent work is a book-length essay called "We should all be feminists". Adichie has also given speeches on the issue and has contributed to making a difference all over the world, but more specifically, in Nigeria.
  18. Beyoncé - ***Flawless ft. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
  19. Flawless features an excerpt from Adichie's speech, which states "We raise girls to see each other as competitors. Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are". Stereotypically, right-winged women are the ones who encourage male sexuality in films and music videos whilst being the ones who criticise the publication of female sexuality, and this speech gives an extremely powerful message because the differences between male and female sexuality are exposed.
  20. “I am a mother. I am a wife, a sister, a daughter, an entrepreneur and I am allowed to be sexy” and so is every other woman. Women should be allowed to be confident about their sexuality and their bodies without fear of judgement or having their bodies be sexualised negatively. We need society to understand this social progression, because at the end of the day, women are powerful and important beings who should spend their time empowering each other.