- This actually reads better on twitter. I had to sacrifice punctuation in some places for the sake of character counts. Lolz, I write better than this makes it appear, trust me.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 18:54:54This thread will have screenshots. It will have my opinions on content. I'll do my best to keep it PG. Based on the screenshots that I've already seen, I can't recommend that anyone reads or buys this book. I'm taking one for the team, because I feel that if I'm going to speak
- I didn't actually end up doing screenshots. I directly quoted the book and responded to specific passages.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 18:57:23out against rep like this... in some cases (this is one) I really do need to be well informed. My tummy is in knots, but if there's anything good here, I'll point it out too. I'm interested in forming my own opinion, not in echoing others. Though it'll possibly be similar.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 18:58:31If it gets to the point where it's affecting my mental health badly, I'll have to stop. But. Here goes. I'll do separate threads for each chapter, and toss the threads here, so that they'll be in one place. then I'll storify everything.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:03:15#BoycottToSiri Authors note: These days, it’s considered politically incorrect to call a person “autistic.” If you do, you are defining that person entirely by his or her disability. Instead, you’re supposed to use “personfirst” language: a man with autism, a woman with autism.
- I failed to add quotes to that, but those are the author's words. Not mine.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:04:49This is absolutely wrong. If you ask ANY adult autistic, most of us are going to say we prefer to use the term autistic. I'm autistic. Person first language is what defines me by my brain. Not the reverse. So right there, we can tell the author has NOT done their research.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:09:30and what's with the scare quotes? I'm autistic, it's not like it's "genocide" or "white supremacy" or "hating on autistics" Then she does a 180 and says it's autism that she prefers to use. So editorial wise? This is poorly researched and badly worded.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:13:58Surprisingly, she acknowledges in the next passage that there are many multiples of gender options. So perhaps her head isn't up her rectum completely? See. I can be hopeful. Sigh. Then she called using a them/they pronoun a 'crime against the English language'. This person
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:16:22is not any sort of an English scholar. The usage for they/them as gender-neutral terminology dates back to Middle English and the 14th century. It's not at ALL a problem. Wait... what? Oh, yeah, I have an English minor. I know these things, but you can google it too. I'll wait.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:18:33Gut punch. TW/CW on sharing information about an autistic minor without permission. Why do I feel like I'm going to be typing that a lot? She says she didn't consult with her son about sharing his information, then she quotes him as saying "I'll be a celebrity, mommy!" OMG. 😭
- Clarification: Gus IS the 'poor autistic' she writes about. She didn't ask him his permission. She asked Henry's though. Henry is the supposedly NT twin.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:21:50Rewind, that was Gus (one of the twins) the non-autistic one? I'm live tweeting this as I read, because I think it's the only way I'll get through it. She even acknowledges in the author's note it's selfish, she calls it necessary. Bcs "Henry’s feelings change w/his mood."
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:23:38Tho I'd also point out here that twins are usually very close, genetically. If one of them is autistic, odds are they both are. Autism is genetic. Go ahead and look that up too. AND POINT OUT ONE PERSON, ALLISTIC OR AUTISTIC WHOSE FEELINGS DON'T CHANGE WITH THEIR MOOD! Faugh.
- Autism is likely a genetic predisposition with environmental and/or nurture/nature affective aspects. It's complicated, and none of us knows how or why it happens. We don't have an answer yet. That includes scientists.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:26:11She goes on to say she did negotiate with her autistic son on how he was portrayed in this. So at least there was SOME communication? Though, I guess she got there by snooping on his computer. Not cool. Oh. Oh dear gods, the kid is 15 now, he was 13 when she was writing this.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:27:10I remember being autistic and 15. It. Was. Not. A. Good. Time. And I didn't have this hanging over my head. I have nothing but compassion for this kid. I'll reserve judgment on the mother until I'm finished.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:28:31and she mentions an agent. Anyone wanting to clue me into who that is, privately is fine, I'd really like to know so I never do business with them. This is NOT cool. And that's just the author's note! Someone send me some booze, I'm gonna need it.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:40:06#BoycottToSiri Introduction: I really need to get it straight which twin is supposed to be the autistic one. They BOTH read as autistic to me. But then, I actually know what I'm talking about, a bit. "Gus tends to speak in exclamation points." Vocal modulation issues
- That opinion, that Henry is also autistic but presenting differently was only confirmed throughout the book.
- — Kaelan Rhy 📝54,315 (@KaelanRhy)Thu, Nov 30 2017 19:41:43can sometimes be part of autism. I have a tendency to speak really quietly, but I laugh too loudly, especially when I'm startled into laughter. This has caused me to develop this thing where I don't laugh. Hardly ever. Because Allistic society doesn't like a little noise?
Response from an #ActuallyAutistic reader to the book To Siri with Love by Judith Newman
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