Your Sex isn’t Better than Mine (and Other Judgements to Do Away With)

Katrina McKay #cconbetter CatalystCon West - September 29, 2013

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  1. There are a lot of labels thrown around in the sex-positive community, and a lot of us speak to the idea of being inclusive. Inclusive of poly-folks. Inclusive of LGBTQ and all of the other acronyms. Inclusive of people of varying ethnicities. Inclusive of folks who identify as kinky or who are part of the BDSM community. All of this is great, and shows a lot of forward progress. But here’s where things get tricky…in an odd twist, we’ve started to close off the sex-positive community for anyone who might not identify with these labels and who might be identified by others with the… dare I say it… “vanilla” label. We are, most often unintentionally, suggesting that sex gets BETTER the more it moves away from being “mainstream.” But because the way we express ourselves sexually and the way we think of ourselves as individuals is so tightly bound and complicated, this message can shut people out of the conversation who equally deserve a voice; and can compartmentalize ideas about sex and sexual activity in ways that are arbitrary and unhealthy. While this session might raise some eyebrows and ruffle some feathers, the hope is that it also opens some hearts, minds and doors.
  2. Pre-speech jitters! Here is what I am wearing to speak in about an hour. You like? #LA #speaker… instagram.com/p/e2SVq1GHgF/
    Pre-speech jitters! Here is what I am wearing to speak in about an hour. You like? #LA #speakerinstagram.com/p/e2SVq1GHgF/
  3. Excited to be here. #ccon #cconwest What an honour (note the #canadian spelling of honour). Talking… instagram.com/p/e2VL-5mHk_/
    Excited to be here. #ccon #cconwest What an honour (note the #canadian spelling of honour). Talking… instagram.com/p/e2VL-5mHk_/
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