- It may be hard to continue to view infidelity as an out of the norm behavior in a country where almost 60% of men and over 45% of women will cheat at some point in their marriage. Today, couples in modern marriages are negotiating their monogamy in many creative and fluid ways, in part perhaps to avoid the pain of betrayal, but also as a natural evolution in the dynamic conversation of partnership both sexually and emotionally.
Therapists and healers can help couples determine these monogamy agreements to include the rules of honesty and disclosure, privacy versus secrecy and other issues that are about this crisis of integrity. This new monogamy is fluid, honest, pleasure based, experimental and joyful. It is different than polyamory, not the same as open marriage, and could lead to a new development in society with emotional and sexual freedom for all of us, if we can grow and mature quick enough to catch up with our potential.
- Tammy Nelson, PhD is a sex and relationship expert, author and international speaker. She is a world renowned expert in relationships, a psychotherapist in private practice, and speaks internationally on sexuality and human relationships. She is a Board Certified Sexologist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist. She is the author of several books including, “What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia,” “Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, “ and the upcoming “The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.”
Dr. Nelson is on the International Advisory Board of Sex Coach University as well as being a Master Faculty member, and she is the founder and primary faculty instructor for the Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, training professionals in the field of psychotherapy, sexuality and human development via Teleclasses and webinars offering cutting edge topics in the field of human relationships. Tammy gives workshops and Intensives for couples and trains psychotherapists around the world on global relational change.