#killallmen Hashtag: From Gut Punch to Discourse
Those of us who love our men - our little boys, our friends, and our male tribesmen - are viscerally affected by the provocative hashtag #killallmen. A deeper dig uncovers intelligent discourse among all-gendered feminist thought leaders and shows that gender bias and misogyny remain robust.
- More radical feminist blogger "stavvers" defends the hashtag. She views the the aggression behind the hashtag as an understandable reaction to the violence and oppression that abused women feel:
"So no, we’re not actually advocating killing all men, but what we need is for men to understand why we might." We'll assume she means 'might advocate' and not 'might kill.' The aphorism "Eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth leaves everyone blind and toothless," comes to mind. But her point about male aggression is articulately made.
- In addition to giving women a voice, Stavver believes the buzz has the potential to spur good men to action. "A secondary function of this powerful little phrase is to seek out allies," she writes.
Social critic and feminist advocate Jackson Katz, Ph.D. is such an ally. Presenting at TEDxFiDi in February 2013, Katz teaches that good men have a duty to confront ignorant or abusive men. Katz presents practical strategies and mindsets for doing just that in his Mentors for Violence Prevention program (MVP).
- In her book, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship," Patricia Evans discusses the types of verbal and emotional abuse that power-over men exert over women. According to Evans, emotionally and verbally abused women feel hurt, diminished, unrecognized, ignored, made fun of, discounted, and closed off. (P. 25; Evans writes on how to identify and confront or leave abusive relationships.)
- @Josh_co_85's reaction exemplifies how the movement maintains traction. Not only promoting violence and discounting women it also denigrates the professionalism and dedication of female soldiers.
- How does one fight to change a culture that the power players don't see benefit to changing? Enter words like 'oppressor' and hashtags like #killallmen. But does feminism best serve its recruitment goals in supporting an aggressive hashtag that reinforces the stereotype of feminists as bitter man-haters?
- "Fearlessknits," another feminist blogger, thinks not.
"... each time, every time, you divide the world into them and us, you cut a living person down the centre. And attention is diverted from the very real problems of structural patriarchy towards the infantile and disingenuous ‘battle of the sexes’."
- @manfrommandm would agree:
- You've seen the meme: "I like God. It's his followers I can't stand"? Feminism suffers a similar tension. In her post, "Jemima101," writes transparently about her evolution into a more liberal feminist.
- She ends with 8 reasons not to use the #killallmen hashtag. Among these are: 1) The hashtag is hate speech. 2) It triggers anyone who has lost a male loved one to violence. 3) It plays into the hands of the people it seeks to change. 4) It repels the very people feminism is seeking to liberate: women.