On feminist abuse culture and enabling
Jezebel ran a piece by Hugo Schwyzer on why it should be OK to publicly shame creeps who present themselves as "Nice Guys" (e.g., the tumblr "Nice Guys of OK Cupid"). Problem: Hugo himself has a bad case of Nice Guy syndrome, and support from feminist/women's spaces is letting him get away with it.
- Short version of the story on Hugo: he has a history of ongoing predatory and manipulative behavior (and lying about that behavior), and bills himself as a male feminist and ally to women in large part on the strength of a narrative that he's found "redemption" from his former ways. There's more detailed background in the couple links below.
Why do some feminist spaces tolerate male abusers? | GlobalComment
What role, if any, should men with a history of abuse of women have in feminism? This question is at the heart of ongoing debates in the ...
On Hugo Schwyzer: Accountability, not silencing dissentA few weeks ago I wrote an article for Global Comment on the ongoing discussion in parts of the feminist blogosphere about Hugo Schwyzer,...
@graceishuman Honest question: is there anything the man could ever do or say to earn forgiveness, repent for his past, make amends?
@graceishuman which of course raises the issue that he ~teaches~ 101 level feminism
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- Brenda/Lysana/eitherIntent, Jane, has nothing to do with the injury. Add in his diagnosed anti-social tendencies and narcissism (which is frankly code for *sociopathy*), and he is...more2013-01-04T18:35:45.095Z
- Jane Devin"He is making women feel unsafe. He is triggering survivors. Whether he INTENDS to is irrelevant. Supposed to be 101 level feminism, yes?" Actually, no, that's...more2013-01-04T05:49:08.699Z
- FizzIntent is not and cannot be the criterion (or a major criterion) for whether something is okay. If you didn't intend to step on someone's foot, you still...Intent is not and cannot be the criterion (or a major criterion) for whether something is okay. If you didn't intend to step on someone's foot, you still apologize for doing it. If you can't walk through a crowded room without stepping on people, you talk to a doctor about your coordination issues and avoid crowded spaces. It doesn't matter that your intent is blameless; you do not have the right to habitually harm people, and it is your responsibility to make it stop happening.more2013-01-18T07:20:57.156Z
- Brenda/Lysana/eitherIntent, Jane, has nothing to do with the injury. Add in his diagnosed anti-social tendencies and narcissism (which is frankly code for *sociopathy*), and he is...Intent, Jane, has nothing to do with the injury. Add in his diagnosed anti-social tendencies and narcissism (which is frankly code for *sociopathy*), and he is unsafe at any speed barring LARGE amounts of work outside of feminist space that he is not doing and won't do so long as he is enabled. He is preying on women online to this day and you think he's just left in the crosshairs?more2013-01-04T18:35:45.095Z
- Jane Devin"He is making women feel unsafe. He is triggering survivors. Whether he INTENDS to is irrelevant. Supposed to be 101 level feminism, yes?" Actually, no, that's..."He is making women feel unsafe. He is triggering survivors. Whether he INTENDS to is irrelevant. Supposed to be 101 level feminism, yes?" Actually, no, that's not the way I learned it or feel it. Intent is everything. I don't know HS personally, but I have read him, interacted with him online, and read the cases against him. I think perhaps this is one of those instances in which someone, once in the crosshairs, can do no right and will never be forgiven.more2013-01-04T05:49:08.699Z
