1. Singapore will stop using a sexual education program, run by a support group promoting Christian values, after the school's students and others posted photos of the course's pamphlet online.
  2. Scans from the pamphlet, titled It's UNcomplicated and produced by Focus on the Family's Singapore chapter, include lines such as "No means yes? Yes means no?" that have been criticized as sexist and promoting rape culture.
  3. A two-page spread shows a comparison chart of "If she says...She really means" with "interpretations," suggesting for example that if a woman says "Do I look fat?" she really means, "Tell me I'm beautiful."
  4. Meanwhile, the opposite page for men says that what "he says" is always the same as what "he really means."
  5. Program promotes bigotry, sexism and rape culture, says student
  6. In an open letter posted to her Facebook page, Hwa Chong Institution (HCI) student Agatha Tan called out the pamphlet and presentation, saying "bigotry is very much alive and it was naive of me to think I could be safe from it even in school."
  7. Since she posted it on Monday, Tan's letter has been shared more than 2,800 times.
  8. "While I do have many concerns with regards to this workshop and its content which I consider to be pressing, the most pressing is perhaps that the workshop and booklet actively serve to promote rape culture in school.," writes Tan.
  9. "Much as girls have been generalized and simplified in this booklet, so too have guys, and this is fair for neither gender. Yet while the simplification of girls serves to belittle their importance as individuals, the gross simplification of guys serves to boost their egos by perpetuating the message that anything and everything guys do is excusable simply because it is wired into them."
  10. She also said that a Focus on the Family in-class presenter jokingly perpetuated gender stereotypes and dismissed opposing or additional viewpoints, such as any concerning LGBTQ students. Several of her scans included girls and women being repeatedly referred to as "gals," which she called belittling.
  11. Scans of the pamphlet got some attention online, including on Reddit, after part of the booklet was compared to a joke post called "The man's guide to female English" with several of the "she says...she means" lines appearing verbatim in both.
  12. "Gals – as it is written throughout the booklet – are fragile and need guys’ support, and everything a guy does in the relationship is excusable simply because he is a guy and is wired that way," writes Reddit user confinedsilence in his commentary.
  13. "Guys, on the other hand, are portrayed as guardians who can ultimately do no wrong even when they are evidently doing wrong... When a 'scantily-clad' girl walks past, for instance, a guy is sure to take notice because 'no man with a pulse could have done otherwise.'"
  14. Program dropped by Singapore Ministry of Education following complaints
  15. On Focus on the Family's Singapore website, the group responded to discussion surrounding their It's UNcomplicated campaign by saying they have received mostly positive feedback.
  16. "Since its launch in 2013, our IUC workshops have consistently received positive feedback of more than 85 per cent of the students rating it as 'Very Good/Good' and 89 per cent rating the overall presentation of our facilitators as 'Very Good/Good,'" wrote the Singapore chapter's CEO Joanna Koh-Hoe.
  17. "It’s unfortunate that what was meant to be a light-hearted workshop to engage students was taken out of context and misinterpreted. As an approved service provider, we definitely do not promote a rape culture," the letter continues.
  18. According to Yahoo News' Singapore bureau, the country's Ministry of Education announced Wednesday that it will end its working relationship with Focus on the Family, and that its workshop will "cease its run by end-2014."

    HCI's principal, Dr. Hon Chiew Weng, said that the workshop was "unable to address the concerns of students satisfactorily when several of them objected to various viewpoints during the discussion."
  19. Similar case in Canada
  20. A similar controversy involving a faith-based sexual education program occurred in Canada this summer. In July, the Edmonton Public School Board said it will tell teachers not to use an anti-abortion centre to teach part of its sexual education curriculum, after a high school student filed a human rights complaint over what she was taught.

    Emily Dawson, 18, and her mother Kathy filed a human rights complaint over a workshop that the Edmonton Pregnancy Care Centre put on at McNally High School last year, which she says misled students about contraception, sexually transmitted infections and other issues in an effort to push abstinence.
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