Can we afford kids?
Listeners on the decision to delay parenthood
- My husband is a German national, and the German government (and society) actually supports new parents. Not so here in the US. We had a serious discussion about planning a family in the US and it's not an option - the math just doesn't add up. We're not ready to return to Germany at this point to live (and I'm already 40), so looks like we'll remain semi-dinks.
- Why more employers don't subsidize some amount for child care like most do for retirement is beyond me and my wife. It costs more a month than most mortgages and that is only one child. One of us will most likely have to quit our jobs when a second child comes along because of the daycare bill. It's crazy.
- BTW... Some people think not having kids is selfish. I see it the other way: Having kids is selfish, especially considering the burden they place on the planet's dwindling resources. An American child has a voracious appetite. Deciding not to have kids doesn't take anything away from anyone, and frees up my time to help others.
- My husband and I are in our 50s, married 25 years, and have never regretted not having kids. Both of us had problematic childhoods that didn't instill a desire to repeat the experience from the other end. Not having kids means we only have to take care of ourselves, financially, and as freelancers, that's a good thing. And considering the ever shrinking job market, and increasing strains on our natural resources, not having kids doesn't seem selfish at all.
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